
Yourself behaviour Y4
Humility
Leadership is not about being the expert in the room. Lead without ego: listen, admit mistakes, share credit and own the outcome.
Jump to Y4 resources ↓What this behaviour looks like
The window and the mirror
A leader asks colleagues, pupils and the people closest to the work for their view before deciding, and admits what they do not know. When things go well they credit others; when things go wrong they take responsibility and share what they learned.
A practical example
Redesigning lunchtime
Already decided“I have designed a new playground rotation with fixed zones. It starts on Monday, and I will let you know how it goes.”
Open to learning“I think fixed zones could reduce conflict, but you see lunchtime every day and I do not. Where does trouble build, and which children need somewhere quieter? If the new plan works, the credit is yours; if it does not, that is on me.”
Admit you do not know where lunchtime trouble builds.
Ask the midday supervisors, who see lunchtime every day.
Credit their ideas and answer for the final decision.
Write what you are unsure about, whose view you have not yet heard and how you will credit their contribution while owning the final decision.
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In a primary school · Headteacher
Redesigning lunchtime with those who see it
Zach · Headteacher · 416-pupil primary school
Worked example at a glance
Redesigning lunchtime with those who see it
The challengeLunchtime conflict is rising and participation is uneven. The headteacher favours a tightly supervised rotation but does not know whether it will reduce conflict or overload supervisors and push out quieter pupils.
What the leader doesThe headteacher runs a paid workshop for midday supervisors and pupil groups, names what is open and fixed, and when a parent asks something the headteacher cannot answer, says so and promises a call by Thursday.
What success looks likeBy day 30 the pilot should run only where the planned provision is secured; by day 60 adjustments should respond to pupil and supervisor evidence; by day 90 the adopted model should improve pupils' belonging and readiness for the afternoon.
Bodhi · Assistant Headteacher for early years · 688-pupil primary school
Worked example at a glance
Shaping Reception transition with families
The challengeThe early years lead proposes one standard Reception transition timetable for every child but has not tested whether sameness is equitable or which flexibilities genuinely matter to families.
What the leader doesThe early years lead concedes that identical is not the same as fair, hears nursery practitioners and families, and publishes a common entitlement with clear criteria for flexibility that are applied fairly.
What success looks likeBy day 30 a core-plus-flex transition pilot should have transparent criteria; by day 60 children's settling and family confidence should improve equitably; by day 90 the model should be workable and consistently explained.
Amira · History Lead and Year 6 teacher · 362-pupil junior school
Worked example at a glance
Testing the history curriculum with others
The challengeA Year 5 teacher tells the history lead that the new local-history units still treat minority histories as occasional extras rather than part of the main narrative.
What the leader doesThe history lead restates the critique in the colleague's terms, tests it against disciplinary evidence, invites a community historian with agreed consent and recognition, and keeps responsibility for the final curriculum map.
What success looks likeBy day 30 the sequence should receive protected challenge from teachers, pupils and an expert; by day 60 two enquiries should combine stronger representation with rigour; by day 90 the curriculum map should show coherent change with contributions credited.
Celia · Headteacher · ages 11 to 16 secondary school, 1,180 pupils
Worked example at a glance
Testing a shorter lunch before deciding
The challengeThe headteacher favours a shorter lunch with an intervention period, but the catering supervisor says it cannot serve every pupil safely without longer queues and cuts to her team's breaks.
What the leader doesThe headteacher opens with the supervisor's capacity evidence rather than the educational case, treats operational limits as leadership evidence, refuses to cast contributors as blockers and owns the final decision.
What success looks likeBy day 30 the appraisal should include less-heard operational and pupil evidence; by day 60 a viable option or a justified decision to stop should be transparent; by day 90 the chosen approach should meet its intended outcomes.
Esme · Deputy Headteacher for professional development · ages 11 to 18 secondary school, 1,640 pupils
Worked example at a glance
Redesigning the coaching cycle
The challengeAn experienced subject specialist tells the deputy that the identical six-week coaching cycle produces performative paperwork and ignores how ready different colleagues are.
What the leader doesThe deputy separates a common entitlement from a common form, asks what strong learning would look like in each route, publishes one quality threshold and audits who is allocated to which route.
What success looks likeBy day 30 differentiated routes should share an explicit quality threshold; by day 60 the pilot should show strong participation and purposeful evidence; by day 90 coaching should improve practice without performative workload.
Darius · Head of Year 9 · ages 11 to 18 secondary school, 1,360 pupils
Worked example at a glance
Understanding repeated lateness
The challengeA Year 9 pupil says the automatic sanction after a third late mark ignores a caring responsibility and makes pupils less willing to be honest with staff.
What the leader doesThe head of year holds the punctuality expectation while asking about the pupil's morning, gives tutors a short decision guide, records the rationale and reviews sanction patterns by pupil group.
What success looks likeBy day 30 tutors should use a consistent first-response routine; by day 60 repeat lateness should fall without unfair sanction patterns; by day 90 both system barriers and individual responsibilities should be addressed.
Felix · Head of Mathematics · ages 11 to 16 secondary school, 980 pupils
Worked example at a glance
Reviewing a mixed-attainment trial fairly
The challengeA trial teacher presents evidence that mixed-attainment teaching produced stronger reasoning and confidence than the setting model the head of maths prefers.
What the leader doesThe head of maths states a prior view openly, asks the teacher to present the unit before the results, examines reasoning, access and workload separately and credits her as the trial's designer.
What success looks likeBy day 30 the trial should have clear evidence and decision criteria; by day 60 pupil learning and experience should be compared fairly; by day 90 the department should adopt a justified grouping approach.
Yara · Trust Director of Inclusion · twelve-school trust
Worked example at a glance
Reporting honestly on a mixed pilot
The challengeAn attendance pilot cut persistent absence in some schools but caused real harm in others. The director's first instinct is to lead with the headline gain and call the problems implementation variation.
What the leader doesThe director asks schools and family-support staff what the design cost them before writing the report, names the director's own decisions on thresholds, timescale and funding first, and credits the family-support lead for the part that worked.
What success looks likeBy day 30 every pilot school should have said what the decisions cost them before the report is written; by day 60 the barrier step should be centrally funded and staffed in every school; by day 90 formal action should fall where the step runs.
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Further reading
Recommended book
Good to Great – Jim Collins (2001)
This text deepens your understanding by illustrating how humility, when paired with resolve, creates exceptional, values-driven leadership.
References from the Everyone Succeeds book
- Collins, J. (2001) Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap… and Others Don't. London: Random House Business Books. Buy on Amazon ↗
- Schein, E.H. (2013) Humble Inquiry: The Gentle Art of Asking Instead of Telling. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler. Buy on Amazon ↗
- Fullan, M. (2001) Leading in a Culture of Change. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass. Buy on Amazon ↗
- Harris, A. (2004) 'Distributed leadership and school improvement: Leading or misleading?', Educational Management Administration & Leadership, 32(1), pp. 11–24. View article ↗
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